Relationships... The Good, The Bad and The STRUGGLE!

We're all guilty of undermining at some point in our relationship and at times without even realizing it. Life would be so much easier if everyone could follow that golden rule -Treat others the way you want to be treated. However, this is the real world and unfortunately life is not that simple. Here are a list of relationship underminers and enhancers.

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Bad mouthing your spouse to others

Singing your spouse’s praise or at the least venting with the appropriate people without any character assassinations

Making negative assumptions about the intent of your spouse’s behavior

Giving them the benefit of the doubt

Fighting Dirty- name calling, bringing up the past, using terms like always or never

Fighting fair-Stay on topic, be respectful

Focusing on the negative things the person does

Focusing on the positive things they do and the joy they bring

Not listening when they talk and not trying to understand the meaning of what they are saying

Making a point to listen and understand

Playing the blame game

Look at your own behaviors and how you affect the other person first

Getting caught up in the dailies

Make your relationship and your partner a priority

Talking down to the person

Treating your spouse like a partner who has things to bring to the relationship

Only seeing things from your own point of view

Putting yourself in their shoes to see things their way

Taking your loved one for granted

Showing your appreciation for all the wonderful things they do

K. Graves
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