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THE STRANGER INSIDE?

4/21/2018

Ibeyi

Did you know that there are people in this world who can't make a simple decision? We struggle with trusting others but the reality could be that most of us don't trust ourselves. There is always room for growth so let's do more self evaluating. My motto is "give what you want". Treat people the way we want to be treated. We all have our own way of dealing with situations. How are you handling things?

The Procrastinator:
This person has all the bright ideas, but is constantly changing their mind and never follows through.

The Waiter:
This person has an idea or opinion, but never makes a move and will allow others to make the decision no matter how long it takes.

The Sponsor:
This person does not want to be involved and will not show up, but supports financially.

The Wonder:
This person has no clue of what is going on and won't ask, but will use lack of information as an excuse.

The Killer:
This person doesn't believe in anything and will shoot down any person, place, thing or idea.

The Kite:
This person is blowing in the wind and doesn't think very long, but also has a quick plan in action.

K Graves

FEAR! THE "F" WORD

12/27/2016

The fear of failure is called "atychiphobia". It is when we allow fear to stop us from doing the things that can move us forward to achieve our goals. Fear can keep you from experiencing everything life has to offer. So many people will allow fear to overtake them which, can ultimately keep you from growing. Let's see how we can overcome fear together.

Acknowledge the problem: Don't try to avoid situations. This does not make issues disappear.

Monitor: Pay attention and be aware. Breathe slowly and keep calm because it's always easier to operate with a clear mind.
Expect positive results: Never think the worst. You only fail if you refuse to try.
Face it: Keep going and encourage yourself along the way.

It is always best to talk with a friend or seek professional help if you feel overwhelmed. We all experience anxiety at some point in life and you do not have to face your fears alone.

K. Graves

ME, MYSELF AND I

10/18/2016

Have you ever taken ownership for a problem that you may have caused or do you constantly blame others? If every situation you are involved in seems to go haywire, you may want to do some self evaluation.

Here are a few self improvement ideas that can help you achieve more effective results.

Practice saying positive things daily: A positive mind can produce positive action.
Give compliments: Find something good even in the worst situation.
Control your voice: Your tone can determine the response you receive.
Be open minded: Don't shut down an idea simply because you do not understand.
Welcome opinions: You don't know everything!
Listen: Be a good listener, it's a sign of respect.
Ask questions: Take constructive criticism, make adjustments as needed and realize that it's not a personal attack.
Give: Don't always be on the receiving end. There are times when you should sacrifice and be there for others but, discern when it's time to say no.
Practice pleasantry: Smile, laugh, shake hands, hug and clap.
Look your best: The first impression is everything. The first thing someone will see is YOU!

Mordernday

K. Graves

STATE OF MIND

6/13/2016

People can experience different types of mental health problems that can affect your thinking, mood, and behavior. Most people with mental health problems can get better. Treatment and recovery are ongoing processes that happen over time. The first step is getting help.

Here is a list of a few mental disorders:

Anxiety Disorders
People with anxiety disorders respond to certain objects or situations with fear and dread. Anxiety disorders can include obsessive-compulsive disorder, panic disorders, phobias, and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

Behavioral Disorders
Behavioral disorders involve a pattern of disruptive behaviors in children that last for at least 6 months and cause problems in school, at home and in social situations. An example of a behavioral disorder is Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).

Eating Disorders
Eating disorders involve extreme emotions, attitudes, and behaviors involving weight and food. Eating disorders can include anorexia, bulimia, and binge eating.

Mental Health and Substance Use Disorders
Mental health problems and substance abuse disorders sometimes occur together.

Mood Disorders
Mood disorders involve persistent feelings of sadness or periods of feeling overly happy, or fluctuating between extreme happiness and extreme sadness. Mood disorders can include depression, bipolar disorder, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), and self-harm.

Personality Disorders
People with personality disorders have extreme and inflexible personality traits that are distressing to the person and may cause problems in work, school, or social relationships. Personality disorders can include antisocial personality disorder and borderline personality disorder.

Psychotic Disorders
People with psychotic disorders experience a range of symptoms, including hallucinations and delusions. An example of a psychotic disorder is schizophrenia.

Suicidal Behavior
Suicide causes immeasurable pain, suffering, and loss to individuals, families, and communities nationwide.

Here are some ways to help treat mental disorders:

Medication
Talk therapy/counseling
Peer support groups
Support of family and friends
Healthy lifestyle (diet and exercise)
Faith community
Spirituality
Regular schedule (including regular and sufficient sleep)
Meditation
Creative activity (journaling, art, music)
Volunteering/giving to others

If you or anyone are experiencing symptoms of mental health disorders please contact :
1-844-891-5463

K. Graves
Reference: Mentalhealth.gov

SOCIAL MEDIA FREAK!

6/7/2016

What would you do if Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat or Twitter blew up today? Would you still have a purpose? Could you find something meaningful to do with your time? Do you even remember what you were doing before social media existed? There's a saying that goes " too much of anything is not good". Take time and evaluate yourself. Hand write a letter, send a postcard, or make a phone call. Ten years ago social media was unknown to the world and you were doing just fine.

Here are a few signs that you are obsessed with Social Media!

You only go somewhere or do something so that you can post about it- likes and comments mean everything to you.
Your Snapchat story is basically a movie.
You check your social media networks about every 10 seconds.
You plan your posts very meticulously.
You post several times daily.

Let's find out if you are a Social Media Freak!

Social Media quiz

By K. Graves

UPGRADE!

5/10/2016

How successful do you want to be? If you have a negative self-image, you cannot achieve success because that would contradict with who you are currently. The feelings of fear, not being good enough, or distrust of your own abilities are the indicators that you want to pursue something greater than your self-image allows you to have.

Change for the better is always good. Here are a few tips that can help you with your transition.

Who are you: Take some time to think about the person you are today. What are your best qualities and what are your worst qualities? Are you truly happy with yourself?
Change is necessary: Is your image working for you? If you are not prospering or reaching your goals you may need to make some minor adjustments. This does not mean you can't continue to be yourself. It simply means you need a little fine tuning.
Get feedback: Constructive criticism can't hurt. Talk with your friends and people you trust that will be honest with you. This will give you some ideas on where you can start.
Create: Change the negatives into positive. Get a new hairstyle, get a professional makeup artist to show you new ideas, add some color to your wardrobe, buy a new fragrance, practice good posture, hold your head up at all times, when talking give eye contact, speak pleasant and with correct English, greet with a handshake, and always smile.
Research: Educate yourself. It's always good to know what you're talking about. Ask questions during your conversations. People like to know that you are interested and everyone loves a good listener.
Change your circle: You are what you eat. Surround yourself around people who are doing great things. As the saying goes, 'when in Rome...'
Uplift yourself daily: Wake up everyday with positive thoughts. Encourage yourself, be your number one fan, be the example, know that people are watching, and remember that it's not about you.

By K. Graves
Reference: The coaching academy blog, simonarich.com

ATTACK ANXIETY!

4/18/2016

Photo credit(Demilked)

Anxiety has a way of preparing us for important events, as well as warning us when we need to take action. However, if you are experiencing anxiety that is overwhelming, unbearable, and is interfering in your daily activities you may be suffering from an anxiety disorder.
An estimated 40 million American adults live with an anxiety disorder and only one- third of those suffering from the illness receive treatment. This is nothing to be ashamed of and is highly treatable. While in some cases medication is used for treatment there are some daily exercises that can help.

When you're feeling anxious or stressed, these strategies will help you cope:

Take a time-out. Practice yoga, listen to music, meditate, get a massage, or learn relaxation techniques. Stepping back from the problem helps clear your head.
Eat well-balanced meals. Do not skip any meals. Do keep healthful, energy-boosting snacks on hand.
Limit alcohol and caffeine, which can aggravate anxiety and trigger panic attacks.
Get enough sleep. When stressed, your body needs additional sleep and rest.
Exercise daily to help you feel good and maintain your health. Check out the fitness tips below.
Take deep breaths. Inhale and exhale slowly.
Count to 10 slowly. Repeat, and count to 20 if necessary.
Do your best. Instead of aiming for perfection, which isn't possible, be proud of however close you get.
Accept that you cannot control everything. Put your stress in perspective: Is it really as bad as you think?
Welcome humor. A good laugh goes a long way.
Maintain a positive attitude. Make an effort to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
Get involved. Volunteer or find another way to be active in your community, which creates a support network and gives you a break from everyday stress.
Learn what triggers your anxiety. Is it work, family, school, or something else you can identify? Write in a journal when you’re feeling stressed or anxious, and look for a pattern.
Talk to someone. Tell friends and family you’re feeling overwhelmed, and let them know how they can help you. Talk to a physician or therapist for professional help.

By K.Graves
Reference: ADAA

SELFISH.. IN A GOOD WAY!

8/27/2015

Being a little selfish can be a good thing. This is your life and not anyone else's. Why wouldn't you be an expert at knowing what you need? Pleasing everyone is not possible nor is it required. Why should you have to?

The same people who try to keep you closed in and dancing to their tune are living their lives just the way they desire to. Too many people get so caught up in what others will think of them not realizing the misery that comes along with carrying that weight.
Free yourself from opinions and live your life without fear of judgement. Yes, there is a chance you could possibly fail, but there is also a chance you will succeed. Take ownership for your happiness. It is not your job to make everyone else happy. The people who really love you rejoice when you succeed. Be aware of those who do not clap when you're winning.
Being selfish is putting yourself first, but there are times when you sacrifice for someone else and this is ok. Be sure that you do not sacrifice your own happiness long term.

Check out these four ways to make being selfish a good thing:

Spending time on your own so you can work out who you are.
Saying ‘no’ more often
Get rid of what’s keeping you from being happy
Find out what your 'bliss' is and follow that

By K Graves

Have You Met Her?

4/15/2015

Art-of-stories (Photo Credit)

I've got someone that I want you to meet. Allow me to introduce you to this fabulous, kind-hearted, and smart woman. There is no one else like her and I think you two would get along great - meet YOU!
So, you're thinking, I thought I was really going to meet someone. Well, you ARE really someone. When's the last time you actually spent some quality time with HER?

Recently, my husband told me to take some time for myself - without him and the kids. Wait, what? No kids? No breakfast, lunch, and dinner orders? Just me, myself, and I? Honestly, it scared me a little. Why, you ask? I suspect the reason is that I am just used to being around them - being a mom and wife. It seems that I may like them, but let's keep that confidential.

Whether you work outside of the home or at home with your family, we can sometimes neglect ourselves. Let's be real - we neglect ourselves more often than we should. We are so caught up in problem solving and making sure everything around us is in working condition, we forget about the awesome chic making it all happen. We can't help it. Women are natural nurturers in most cases and we all don't do it in the same ways.

Here's a thought: get to know you. Spend some quality with the one person that truly knows you. It's tough enough to squeeze in quality bathroom time, trust me, I know. Start small - 15 to 20 minutes taking off the old nail polish and applying a fresh coat. Make a deal with your spouse, family friend, or relative that would allow time away from the kids. Long term goal - plan a weekend getaway with your gal pals or maybe a weekend stay-cation with just YOU. Whatever you decide, the point is to remember how wonderfully awesome you are. Taking time for yourself is not a guilty pleasure; it's necessary and well-deserved!

By C. Morrison

ANGER MANAGEMENT!

3/25/2015

Magforwomen(photo credit)

Have you noticed that lately you have a short fuse? Are you easily annoyed?

Here are a few anger control tips.

1. Acknowledge That you Have a Problem

2. Keep a Hostility Log

3. Use Your Support Network

4. Interrupt the Anger Cycle

5. Use Empathy

6. See the Humor in Your Anger

7. Relax

8. Build Trust

9. Listen Effectively

10. Be Assertive

11. Live Each Day as if it's Your Last

12. Forgive and Forget

Tip:
These strategies are only a general guide. If anger continues to be a problem, you might need to seek the help of a suitably qualified health professional, especially if your anger hurts others, or if it causes you harm.