FEAR IS THE ENEMY OF LOVE!

Surviving a breakup can be both draining and hurtful. The fear of being hurt again can create a wall in front of your heart. This is very normal, yet very damaging because although you are protecting yourself you are also blocking the possibility of finding true love. Here are a few things to consider.



Do you want it? First, ask yourself if you want a relationship because not everyone has the desire to commit.

Self evaluate: Stop the blame game. Take a look at yourself and address the issues that you may have. Not all failed relationships are the other person's fault. You can not control what someone does to you, but you have control over yourself. How can you make yourself better as a person?

Be happy: Before you start a relationship make sure that you are happy within first. Your mate should add to your happiness not completely supply it.

Be open: Yes you were hurt, but that is the chance we take in life. Don't shut down and close yourself off from the world. Learn to accept what comes and find a strategy to deal with it.

Be positive: Love is a beautiful thing that is not always perfect and this is ok. Don't let your bad moment turn into a bad day. You have the control!

Keep going: You may fail and so what! Try again and again, but every time be more cautious and aware. Real love is worth fighting for, but only when you are your first love.

Of course if you feel overwhelmed please seek professional help.

K.Graves

　

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