Buzzing louder than usual, the tardy bell rings the moment I reach my Algebra class door. Looking me square in the face, the teacher closed the door. Franticly knocking and twisting at the locked door. No one came. And within seconds his cold masculine hand wrapped around my throat, as my feet began to dangle above ground, he firmly pressed my teenage body against the wall. With a deep chillin’ voice he said, “I better never see you walkin’ with another nigga, again.”
Back then I didn’t know it, but I’d ‘soul tied’ myself to a monster-
Over 30 years later and after a much needed workout in Aurora, Colorado I engaged in much needed dialogue with my friend, Rhi @trueartistrhimack. In the midst of conversation, I always ask about the national playwright, Laterras R. Whitfield @laterrasrwhitfield. But this time it wasn’t how he was doing; it was what he was doing. He’s doing what he does best. Creating ‘Outside the Box’ Planting seeds. Gaming the game. Empowering. Changing lives on his, ‘Dear Future Wifey Podcast’. He’s LIT ‘Living Intentionally and Transparently’ a phrase he’s coined. Everyone is LIT, huni! I’m here for his journey to discover, uncover, and recover love. Oh, and the love letters he reads at the end of each episode.
But what does all this mean? What’s the purpose? He candidly explains everything. To find out click the YouTube link Dear Future Wifey. Then subscribe. Then binge watch. So, why did I begin with such a violent story, my story. After watching “Abstain to Gain”, season 2 episode 201 with Lestine Bell, it was reflection time. Time to look back at the root of my pain. The toxic relationship that changed my life forever. A soul tie that would impact my future relationships and way of thinking. Both my parents were actively present in my home. I’m sure they had some disagreements, but I never heard them. But for damn sure I never saw them physically fight. So, I knew I wasn’t staying in this mess. But he made sure I’d leave tarnished for life. I left a teenage rape victim. Now I’d forgiven this guy years ago, but the damage and residue lingered long after. Unknowingly, I took pieces of his darkness with me; all because of a damn soul tie. I was ‘Damaged Goods’. With God, a little therapy, and through the passing of years I’m 90% healed.
So, I ask the questions: ● When we see red flags popping up, why do we stay? Or better yet, why do we even get involved with that man or woman? ● If we know sexual soul ties can link us to the wrong person, why do we engage in it? ● Why not practice abstinence to avoid the possible headache? ● Hell, is there such a thing as an unscathed love? If you know please share. If not, we can discover, uncover, and recover love with Laterras R. Whitfield on the “Dear Future Wifey Podcast”,
To find out click the YouTube link Dear Future Wifey below. Then Subscribe.
By Tonika Yvonne Wheeler