A week or two ago we posed this question in one of our morning motivation posts on Facebook (If you haven't liked our page yet, get to it! You don't want to miss these). Getting dressed for the day can be a little tricky. It can get especially tricky if you are not a morning person or have to multi-task and get yourself and others ready for the day. Throw in preparing a lunch or two and grabbing breakfast on your way out, then it just turned into a bona fide circus.
Usually there is a routine that appears and you begin to do the some of the same things over and over when you are getting dressed. You grab a bracelet or you have on your favorite necklace. Maybe your dressing routine is simply getting clean clothes on all of the correct body parts - trust me, I understand. The point is that you're dressing yourself pretty much the same way everyday.
While we are putting on tangible items we also need to make sure we grab some not-so-tangible items before we leave home: confidence, ownership, accountability, positive vibes, joy...among so many other things.
I had the opportunity to chat with a coworker about a month ago and during our conversation she shared her initial perception of me. Now, just in case you do not know me personally let me shed a little light. I tend to be somewhat serious and the most obvious characteristic is that I do not talk unless I have something to say. In a new environment I am mostly observing and making mental notes. Back to the chat with my coworker - she mentioned my serious nature, but she also said that I was confident and ended with 'there's just something about you that is positive'.
Everyday I attempt to be the best that I can, whether it's at work, at home, and in between. My intention is to achieve the goals that are set for the day and to inspire someone else along the way. Let's be real about this - there are some days that it just doesn't get done and that's ok. I purposely put on a positive attitude which may or may not need to be adjusted through out the day (true story). I grab some self-confidence and make sure I'm walking IN IT and I also get enough to share with my two girls. Ownership and accountability gets slathered on - do you see where I am going with this?
I have struggled with self-confidence for a lot of my adult life. For someone to point it out and acknowledge that they can see it is major, at least for me it is. My coworker saw it because I purposely put it on. Honestly, I can't take all of the credit. God allowed me to recover from some circumstances that have given me a reason to empower someone else. I have put on self-confidence so much that now it's just a part of who I am. Let me be clear, having confidence in myself does not mean that I am exempt from being afraid. It just means I believe in myself enough to take the chance AND be afraid at the same time - HA!
Start checking 'your clothes' before you leave the house or before you get out of your car. Be intentional with what you are wearing and if what you left the house with isn't fitting properly, change it. You may even need to change up some accessories during the day. What you had on before lunch may not be appropriate for that afternoon meeting.
Remember, my goal is to inspire you to be better. If you are already dressing for the day, PERFECT! Don't forget to empower someone else along the way.
Until next time in the safe place,
Welcome back to the safe place!
Last week I had the awesome opportunity to experience 'your gift will make room for you.'. Kuinua's debut was more than I expected. I received so much support that it was overwhelming. Although this is another spectacular example, it was not the experience I was referring to.
I started a new job back in May in an unfamiliar field of work. During the interview I remember stating some specific goals to the hiring manager. During the course of the six weeks of training and the past several months after training, I have been vocal about those same goals to my immediate supervisor plus a few more. The hiring manager has kept in contact with me and we have spoken in person. Guess what came up during our conversations? Exactly! We talked about those goals I had set along with opportunities that were relevant to my future plans. Last week I encountered several people that let me know that my name had come up during some manager's meetings regarding an open position and for a project. My gift had made room for me.
Here's what I know - starting something new and unfamiliar is difficult and just plain scary. You may doubt your abilities and struggle with self-confidence. If you're like me then you may start to question your reasoning for choosing something new. Hello! I have been doing that every since I decided to get on this 'out of your comfort zone' kick! Your super creative imagination kicks in with ridiculous descriptions of failure. Then you start to talk yourself out of your new adventure.
Don't panic! Take a moment and think about your plans. Then remember why you started planning. Maybe you just need to break down your goals into smaller goals to avoid becoming overwhelmed. Commit to seeing this adventure through no matter what. Celebrate the wins and be gentle when things seem to be stagnant. Remember small progress is still progress.
I use the phrase 'be intentional' often when posting for our morning motivation. I really believe in it especially when it comes to my circle. You can not control others actions and beliefs, but you can control who is a part of your life. If there are people around you that negatively effect what you are doing then handle it. Be intentional with who you share your plans and aspirations. The last thing you need is someone or something that does not line up with where you are going.
This first month of the new year will be ending soon. Don't let it end without making a commitment to set and achieve some specific goals. Keep it small and achievable. Set some specific work-related goals and share them with your manager or trusted leader. Is there something that you have been longing to try? Here is your sign - do it.
Don't forget to do your part, push passed the difficulties, and watch your gift make room for you.
Until next time in the safe place,
Kuinua - Swahili word for lift
Welcome to Kuinua!
My sole purpose is to provide you with a safe place to be lifted. If you are a frequent VW follower, then you know that we post something inspirational every morning (except on the weekends or those pesky holidays). Well, Kuinua is just an extension of our morning inspirational posts. My hope is to continue with inspiration and include some life experiences of my own when they are relevant.
Life has a tendency to be a little tough every now and then. Let's just be brutally honest, many have questioned their existence - I know I have. Here's the truth about that - if you are still here then it absolutely means you have some work to do. Your time on earth has been extended to complete your assignment. I hope to provide you with something weekly to take along with you to keep you focused and moving forward.
We have been graced with a new year. A brand new page in our novel to add adventure, drama, mystery, and some comedy. It truly is up to us to make things happen, but know when to take a step back to those things you have no control over. I'll confess - I have a problem with this one. I am a logical thinker. It's either black or white with me - no gray. The need to control things that are out of our reach is the process of moving those things out of the gray area into either the black or white area. In my mind, the gray area is chaos and I LOATHE chaos. So, then I try to handle it when most of the time it is nothing that can be handled. I am learning to leave those things in the gray area. Trust me, I am definitely a work in progress.
Here's what I've learned in the past 2 1/2 years - if I can't control it then I try to focus on the things that I can control. Sometimes the only thing you will be able to control is your attitude. Trying to hold on to the issue will only cause continuing aggravation. You will no longer be productive. Do what you can and then move on.
I hope your time spent here will be encouraging enough to push you to do better and be better. Frankly, you will be pushing me to do better. I have promised myself that I would make my best attempt this year to live outside of my comfort zone. That includes interacting with more people and trying things that I would have never even thought about pursuing. Sharing personal experiences with people I do not know, opening myself up to critique and judgment - yep, I would say this is absolutely nowhere near my comfort zone.
Thank you in advance for your time spent in the safe place and here's to a successful and productive year!